Under the best of circumstances, the combination of extended family dinners, gift shopping excursions and financial pressure make the holiday season a stressful time. If you and your spouse have been fighting more than enjoying each other, getting to January can seem all but impossible - but keeping the family together for the holidays is often a priority for both couples.
You may be in for a rude awakening if you think the biggest mistake you ever made in life is to marry your partner. Once you file for divorce in New York, you can never be certain as to what will happen, or the emotional reaction from your partner. What may have been an amicable split can turn into a situation that is full of stress, frustration and strife.
No matter if you received your final divorce decree last month or 10 years ago, it can be a nasty surprise to learn that your ex-spouse has a criminal charge pending. It could be for DUI or DWI, embezzlement or something else altogether.
Divorce is as much a part of current society as marriage - and even the friendliest of divorces can become incredibly complicated. In addition to the division of real estate, investment portfolios, personal property and debts, divorces now often involve custody of and access to the pets.
The last few months have been tough. Over the Holidays, the constant bickering and fighting with your spouse put additional strain on your already rocky relationship. The calm of January may have lulled you into believing you were back on solid ground. But then the verbal blow-up at the restaurant over Valentine's Day dinner led to the big talk - that dreaded conversation about divorce.
If your health insurance comes through your spouse's employer, you should worry about health care coverage after divorce. You may even rethink untying the knot if you have significant health care needs - especially given all the uncertainty currently surrounding the Affordable Care Act (ACA).
When you married, both you and your spouse brought your own assets and debts into the marriage. Some call this non-marital property. New York deems these items as separate property and separate debts.
Some couples are unsure if divorce is the right answer to their problems and want to legally separate to experience what it would be like to live apart before making a final decision. Other couples are sure they want a divorce, but would like a legal separation first because of financial or other benefits of a legal separation. Some couples also would like to live apart because religious or other reasons prevent them from getting a divorce.
Maintenance, also referred to as alimony or spousal support, can be granted through a divorce. It is usually ordered when one spouse earns significantly more than the other spouse, one spouse needs time to garner the skills to be relevant in the workforce again, or so one spouse can maintain the lifestyle he or she has become accustomed to. Unlike child support, alimony has far less specific guidelines for determining the amount of the payments.
You are likely familiar with the pros and cons of a prenuptial agreement, with a hefty list of pros on why getting a signed prenuptial agreement into place is a good idea prior to marriage. However, too many couples get stuck on the cons, which are that it isn't an easy topic to discuss and it seems like you're planning on a divorce before you're even married.