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3 factors to consider in late-life divorce

It is now more typical for divorce to occur later in life when partners are in their 50s or 60s. Usually these are long-term marriages of 20 years or more. When these marriages end they are known as a "gray divorce". These late-life divorces bring special challenges that couples must consider.

It is important to focus on particular factors when divorcing at this stage in your life. If you are contemplating a so-called gray divorce, a qualified divorce attorney can help you navigate these challenging waters. Here are a few basics to get you started:

3 myths about spousal maintenance that are wrong!

Spousal maintenance, or alimony as many people call it, is often a contentious issue in New York divorces. It is simply the financial support paid to an ex-spouse after a divorce. This topic is complicated further because of the many misconceptions surrounding it.

Clearing up some of the common maintenance/alimony myths can help you get a better picture of what to expect. You should consult a seasoned attorney for personalized advice applicable to your situation because calculations tend to be heavily fact-specific.

Debunking 3 child custody myths

The biggest divorce story out of New York right now involves Vanessa Trump filing for divorce against Donald Trump, Jr. The couple, after 12 years of marriage and five children, has officially decided to call it quits.

This case, as with other divorcing couples, will involve determining child custody, visitation and access schedules. Many divorcing spouses make mistakes during this process based on wide-spread myths involving child custody that are not true. This can be avoided with the aid of a divorce and matrimonial family law attorney.

How to avoid making the same mistakes as divorcing celebrities

Celebrities appear to live glamorous lifestyles full of riches, fame and luxury. When it comes to divorce, these riches and fame can make things more complicated and lead to additional hostilities. Divorce can be a stressful, emotional event for people from all walks of life. People with money are not immune from making poor choices during challenging times.

Most of us aren't celebrities but can learn from the common mistakes made by divorcing celebrities. No matter your circumstances, every divorcing or separating couple would be wise to avoid these pitfalls so their divorce or separation goes smoothly. 

Ways that social media can impact divorce and family law matters

Researchers are now studying the effect social media has on our lives, including romantic partnerships. Researchers from Northcentral University suggest that social media can distract married couples and prevent spouses from adequately nurturing their interpersonal relationship. Social media can also contribute to couples being envious of other couples because they compare their relationship to what they see other people claiming they are doing online.

While social media can have a negative impact on marriage, it can have an equally destructive impact during divorce, child custody and visitation proceedings. In fact, it's been suggested that people going through divorce proceedings would be better off logging off social media until the dust has settled. Ultimately, posting on Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram and other sites is likely to cause more harm than good.

Debunking 3 myths about prenups

New York State as of October 2017 has one of the lowest divorce rates in the United States. Approximately 12.9 married people out of every 1,000 divorced in 2016, giving NYS the fourth lowest divorce rate in the country. New York's neighbor, New Jersey, has the third lowest rate.

Despite these statistics, every couple should consider getting a prenuptial agreement before actually saying, "I do." Unfortunately, many couples forgo this important document. This can be extremely detrimental and costly in the event of divorce. While future spouses may not want to talk about the possibility of divorce, it is crucial to have this document completed before the actual wedding. In the event of a divorce it will be the document the court can look to for settlement.

3 reasons why you should not procrastinate on divorce

There's a strong possibility you're in no rush to divorce if you and your spouse have been living apart in Buffalo or elsewhere. In fact, many couples whose relationships have ended choose to go their separate ways and avoid divorce.

However, not getting a divorce when it's clear you and your current spouse are no longer interested in being together can cause problems. Not only does it give rise to financial complications, it can also have an impact on other aspects of your lives. Here are three reasons why a long separation may not be beneficial and a divorce may be the better decision.

How to get along with your spouse during the holidays

Under the best of circumstances, the combination of extended family dinners, gift shopping excursions and financial pressure make the holiday season a stressful time. If you and your spouse have been fighting more than enjoying each other, getting to January can seem all but impossible - but keeping the family together for the holidays is often a priority for both couples.

With the New Year comes the opportunity to pursue a new beginning, which may be with or without your partner. In the meantime, the following three strategies can help you face the holiday season with a brave face for your children and relieve some of the stresses that you and your spouse are experiencing.

College student co-parenting scenarios

No matter your circumstances or the ages of your children, co-parenting can be a delicate balancing act. When the children in question are college students, you may feel even more at a loss. For example, you might be wondering how much discretion should be left to a child when they are 18 or older.

Here is a look at some of the common situations co-parents of college students face: 

Mistakes to avoid in a divorce to keep you from losing it all

You may be in for a rude awakening if you think the biggest mistake you ever made in life is to marry your partner. Once you file for divorce in New York, you can never be certain as to what will happen, or the emotional reaction from your partner. What may have been an amicable split can turn into a situation that is full of stress, frustration and strife.

Often, neither of you wants the other to get their fair share of marital assets or custody of the children and pets. Either party may be willing to go so far as to consider not disclosing all of the assets and income to achieve their goal. This is a huge mistake that will lead to more litigation and problems. Before anyone gets too caught up in all the drama and games, review the following mistakes to avoid in divorce.

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